Oh Where Oh Where Has My Little Muse Gone?
I always thought finding my true calling would be a huge moment. As soon as the muse found my address, as soon as we looked each other in the eyes, fireworks would go off, alerting the masses: I had found my purpose.
A God-mark would appear across my forward or maybe behind my ear. Something that shouted to the world “Hey, I found my calling!!”
Life A.C. (After Calling) would be a fairy tale. Each morning, birds would put slippers on my feet and tie my hair into a ribbon and I would sit down and work. I would write. Create. Dive deeper into my genius every day.
Exhaustion would be replaced with never ending energy. I would always know what to write. I would never feel any fear, confusion, or doubt ever again.
That’s why whenever I tried to write something—a book, a blog post, a grocery list—and it would feel really scary and awful, I’d quit.
If it doesn’t feel like magic, like flow, it must not be my calling.
Definiteness of Purpose—What It Is, Why You Need It, and How to Use It
I so badly wanted my calling to get here already. My heart longed for something to work for every day.
In Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, he mentions over and over there’s a secret to getting everything you want. If you’re ready for the secret, it will jump out at you and be blatantly obvious.
I can’t tell you how disappointed I was when I finished that book and still didn’t know the secret.
Maybe that meant I wasn’t capable of achieving my calling. Or maybe that meant I was supposed to get resourceful.
So I googled it.
Napoleon probably rolled over in his grave when I cheated the system, but I really wanted to know.
And you know what I found out? The secret to achieve all your dreams in life is to have a Definiteness of Purpose.
What does that mean?
It means having a single focus. Telling your brain exactly what your calling is every single day. It means pursuing the muse instead of waiting for it to pursue you.
My heart deflated at that realization. I have to choose my own calling? That’s not very sexy.
While being in a state of nirvana as you work on your glamorous calling, without any doubt, fear, or confusion sounds a lot more glamorous than simply choosing your own calling, it’s not reality.
Reality is waking up every single day and telling your brain what your calling is.
Your Definiteness of Purpose is the difference between following a pre-programmed GPS or trying to find your way Bird Box-style—blindfolded and scared out of your mind.
The more you tell your brain exactly what your goal is, the more familiar it gets with the idea. And familiarity means efficiency. The more efficient it gets at it, the less resistance it will put up.
But how do you actually get your Definiteness of Purpose?
There are so many options. So many things you could do. If you pick one, how do you know it’s the right one? How do you know it’s what you are truly meant to do?
Because you chose it. Once you start to focus on your Definiteness of Purpose, you’ll realize it doesn’t matter what purpose you chose. It just matters that you chose it.
It also doesn’t matter if you think you’re unqualified. It doesn’t matter what your current skill level is or how much you actually know about your calling. Everything is figureoutable.
The details, knowledge, and skills will come. They always do with purposeful action. All it takes to qualify for your calling is to answer “yes”. Every single day.
Let’s do this together. Let’s pick a calling right here and now. Ready? Go!
Definiteness of Purpose is: _______________.
Did the sky open? Did angels swarm down from heaven?
No. But your brain just got a lot more powerful.
Try this really simple exercise. Every single morning and every single evening, write down your Definiteness of Purpose in a notebook or planner.
Write it down, type it out, or stitch it into a needle point. Just make sure to get it out of your head and down on paper where you can see it.
Do this two times a day, just like this:
Definiteness of Purpose:
- Write a book
Definiteness of Purpose:
- Write a book
Try that for thirty days.
Here is what’ll happen:
Some days, you’ll feel great about it.
Other days, you’ll hate it. You won’t feel like choosing it. You’ll feel stupid, unqualified, unsure, unable. You’ll have doubt. You’ll think you could never really do it.
Eventually (or three days in if you’re anything like me), you’ll get taken over by a manic urge to choose a different calling. That new calling will seem to make so much sense. You’ll feel like the new idea is actually the correct one and you just made a mistake before.
But it’s not the correct calling. Why? Because it’s not the one you chose.
You chose this one. Just keep writing it down, morning and night, day after day. The same one you chose on Day One.
This is the secret. This is the muse—choose your calling every single day, even when you don’t feel like it. (And for when you really don’t feel like it, make sure you read this pillar post 2 Steps to Your Writing Breakthrough to learn how to take action even when you really, really, really don’t want to!).
If you brain demands to know why, just tell it “Because I chose it. That’s why.”
What’s your Definiteness of Purpose? I’d love to see it in the comments below!
And even better, come back in thirty days and share how your life changed after just a month of writing your Definiteness of Purpose every day.