Imagine if you could feel inspired all the time. And motivated. And excited. And any other feeling you want. The thing is—you can. And not only do you have the power to choose your feelings, you also have the power to erase any bad feelings that pop up.

How to Tap Into Endless Writing Inspiration

May 27, 2020

Imagine if you could feel inspired all the time. And motivated. And excited. And any other feeling you want. The thing is—you can. And not only do you have the power to choose your feelings, you also have the power to erase any bad feelings that pop up.

How to Tap Into Endless Writing Inspiration

May 27, 2020

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Imagine if you could feel inspired all the time. And motivated. And excited. And any other feeling you want. The thing is—you can. And not only do you have the power to choose your feelings, you also have the power to erase any bad feelings that pop up.

When you’re feeling inspired, it’s easy to write. You feel good, you feel talented, you feel full of ideas.

But when you’re feeling depleted, it’s near impossible. You feel too exhausted to pull yourself from the couch, anything you do manage to get down on paper is garbage, and you feel so beat down that you want to quit writing forever.

Imagine if you could feel inspired all the time. And motivated. And excited. And any other feeling you want.

The thing is—you can. And not only do you have the power to choose your feelings, you also have the power to erase any bad feelings that pop up.

I’ve been doing this work for a long time. I went from never feeling like writing and only dreaming of being an actual writer, to writing professionally full-time and in my spare time. All because I learned how to change my negative feelings into action-generating ones.

Here’s how to do it:

1. Know where your feelings come from

Being a writer is an emotional rollercoaster. Sometimes you’re living high on the hog, finding inspiration under every rock and around every corner, and other times you’re dried up and empty.

But being dependent on how you feel in order to get work done isn’t only exhausting, it’s unsustainable. Your deadlines and expectations don’t care what kind of mood you’re in—they only care that your work gets done.

The first step to learning how to keep writing regardless of how you feel as well as how to create any type of emotion in yourself is to understand where those emotions come from.

Contrary to popular belief, we aren’t at our emotions’ mercy.

Our thoughts create our feelings. Our feelings create our actions. And our actions create our results.

This is called the Model, created by Brooke Castillo. She’s really great. You should check her out!

As you can see, everything you feel is controlled by your thinking. And that’s good news because you’re entirely in control of your thoughts, even if it might not seem like it!

2. Learn how to identify energy-sucking thought/feeling combos

We have about 60,000 thoughts a day. The more we think a certain thought, the deeper its neural pathway becomes. The deeper the pathway, the more frequent and powerful that thought is to us.

Before you can control your thoughts and emotions, you have to become aware—what the heck is even happening in there?!

Honestly, this is the hardest part but it will be one of the most impactful things you ever do in your life.

To develop awareness of your thoughts, you can do two things:

–Start a daily practice of doing a thought download

Take out a blank sheet of paper and write down every single thing that comes to the front of your mind. It doesn’t matter if it’s positive, negative or downright evil. Just write it down.

Once you’re done, take a look at what’s on that paper. Thought downloads give you a ton of clarity to some of your most common thoughts and what plagues your mind throughout your day.  

–Learn to identify the physicality of emotions

As you now know, your thoughts create your feelings. A great way to figure out what thoughts are streaming through your head is to focus on how you’re currently feeling.

A feeling is a vibration in your body.

Each emotion has certain locations where it shows up in our bodies. Some show up in our temples and chests. Others in our calves and hands.

Each emotion also exhibits different physical sensations. Some feel slow and wave-like while others feel fast and tight.

The more you can pinpoint what certain emotions feel like in your physical body, the more you’ll start to notice them. Once you start to notice when a certain feeling shows up, be it anxiety, doubt, joy, or gratitude, you can trace back to the thought creating it.

3. Negate bad feelings with neutral feelings

Once you start to notice what you’re feeling at any given moment, you’ll most likely find you have a lot of negative emotions. And you’ll most likely want to change these immediately.

But the deeper a thought’s ingrained, the harder it is to switch to a thought on the other side of the spectrum, for instance from a negative one to a positive one.

The best way to start retraining your brain from negative to positive is to turn your negative thoughts into neutral thoughts. A neutral feeling like acceptance feels much, much better than a negative feeling like overwhelm.

To get the full process of neutralizing negative thoughts, check out the post Superchange Your Writing Routine in 10 Minutes by Adding this One Habit.

To get started neutralizing negative thoughts, first trace back to the thought that’s causing the negative emotion. Let’s say for this example we’re feeling discouraged. And we discovered the thought creating that feeling is “I’m the worst writer ever.”

In order for a thought to create a positive feeling in you, it has to be believable. You can’t just tell yourself “I’m a fabulous writer”, when you’ve been telling yourself you’re an awful one for so long.

Instead of trying to move to a completely different thought, tack on a neutralizing ending to the existing thought like “and that’s okay”. Then add the reason it’s okay. So, “I’m a terrible writer, and that’s okay. I’m a beginner.”

When done right, you can go from feeling discouraged to at peace in a second.

4. Create new and wanted feelings

Now is when the magic of this practice starts. Once you’ve started to identify and neutralized some of the negative thoughts and get more control over your thoughts and feelings, you can start generating any emotion you want. Seriously, any. Excited, joyous, inspired, motivated, grateful, determined, patient, confident, etc., etc., etc.

Imagine sitting down to write and knowing you’ll feel inspired and motivated every time.

Here’s how you do it:

  • Pick the emotion you want to feel.
  • Plug it into the Feeling line of the Model:
    • Thought:
    • Feeling: Determined.
    • Action:
    • Result:
  • Figure out what thought creates that emotion for you.
    • Thought: I am struggling with this scene right now, but I will figure it out. Everything is figureoutable.
    • Feeling: Determined.
    • Action:
    • Result:
  • Keep going back to that thought over and over until it become an ingrained neural pathway (aka a belief).
  • Watch the Action and Result that happen from that thought and feeling:
    • Thought: I am struggling with this scene right now, but I will figure it out. Everything is figureoutable.
    • Feeling: Determined.
    • Action: Write, write, write.
    • Result: Finish your novel.

5. Learn how to work despite negative emotions for those times it’s just not happening

Even though the above process is really powerful, there are some days where it just isn’t gonna happen. That’s normal.

Learning how to work even when you don’t want to is a skill that separates the achievers from the dreamers.

One of the reasons we try so hard to avoid negative emotions is because we don’t realize they’re actual harmless. Seriously. A feeling is just a vibration in your body. Even the really, really awful ones. The reason they feel so awful is because we try to avoid them and not feel them. This just amplifies the negative emotions and makes them last much much longer.

When you learn how to feel negative emotions all the way through, they’ll still be uncomfortable, but they’ll really won’t last that long. Especially compared to how long they last when you’re trying to run from them.

You’ll soon realize negative emotions aren’t debilitating or all encompassing. If you’re feeling dread, doubt, fear, overwhelm, anxiety, or even anger, the more you practice feeling them, the more they’ll start to just be there on the side instead of being the main focus.


What are the top three feelings you want to generate regularly? Mine are peace, determination, and joy.

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MY NAME'S KELSEY AND I'M A BOOK SLUT

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